Unpopular Opinions

At the end of my last post (Here), I mentioned that I have a lot of unpopular opinions that I could rant about. I decided to share them because I don't voice my opinion too often and want to get out of my tent of comfort. I'm hopefully going to make this into a little series I guess. This will be part 1 of many (If you guys want them).

Disclaimer:

I have no intention to cause offence or hurt, in anyway. If you disagree with me then feel free to voice your counter argument in the comment section. 

*In hales* *Exhales* Let's do this.

1)  There are only 2 genders
- Please don't come at me for this because my opinion won't change

2) The Kardashians are one of the main reasons for the failure of this generation
- I have no idea how to explain this without disrespecting them so hopefully they will never read this LOL. I obviously don't mean in terms of violence and terrorism etc. What I mean by this, is that the Kardashian family becoming so mainstream has led to way too many girls wanting to look exactly like them, increased self esteem issues and increased cosmetic surgery procedures among young adults. Not only this but way too many people now aspire to be social media influencers as a career, which in my opinion is not a good career aspiration.
-Yes they've somehow managed to build multi-million dollar empires over the last decade just by being attractive, but I don't respect the process and at the end of the day I would rather be respected than rich.

3) Leading on from number two: Plastic surgery doesn't fix insecurities 
-When it comes to plastic surgery, I have very mixed opinions. I personally don't think I would get it but if someone else wants to get it, that is none of my business. When someone gets something done, I don't look at them any differently (If they are honest about it), however if someone's whole body is fake, I definitely start to lose respect for them. There is a reason behind this so let me explain.
-When someone chooses to change everything about them, there are 4 things I think of.
--- They took the easier route rather than learning to love what they have
--- They would rather risk their health for the "perfect" features than to work on their self esteem
--- They are choosing to waste thousands of £ on something that ultimately doesn't matter
--- They had a lot of insecurities to begin with that needed to be dealt with
- I just don't think cosmetic surgery is ever the answer to low confidence.

4) Dr Alex on Love Island needs to go home
- His time surely must be up by now? I'll be checking Twitter for when he is on his way to the airport. This guy has been hurt more than his patients.

5) Most trending Instagram comedy sketch videos are trash

6) Kpop is overrated
-I've heard a few songs and I don't get the hype. To be fair, BTS seem like fun guys

7) All this advanced technology isn't good, its terrifying 
- Listen here. If you think I'm using facial recognition to unlock my phone so that the government can store my retinas, you must be crazy. I'm already using finger print recognition and really skeptical. People think the facial recognition feature on iPhone X is amazing. I DON'T! It's terrifying and it makes me think the end days are approaching No thankQ. I've read 1984 by George Orwell...

8) Android is way better than Apple. 
-Samsung all the way!

9) Milkshake is gross

10) Nobody should be allowed to use the N word
- Even as a young black woman, I don't think the N word should be used at all. I get why it was reclaimed and used, but it has such strong history. I don't think our ancestors would want us to use it and it causes so much unnecessary controversy.

11) Most of this generation look at social media, to make political judgments rather than gather their own thoughts and ideas
- I don't know if it's cus we're brainwashed, lazy or sheep. Could be a combo of all three.

12) I'm not a huge fan of Bananas
- Nobody hypes up Nectarines and Kiwi but they're so good. I have to be in the mood for Bananas.

13) Black History Month is just to tick a box
- When it comes to Pride, everyone goes all out. Music Festivals, Rainbow everything, Banners etc. On the other hand, black history month isn't any where near on that level. We learn about the same people every year, there is a solid focus on slavery rather than how far we've become and it almost feels like it ends once you graduate high school. I thought it was overlooked in school and then I graduated. Never mind overlooked, we pretty much just get a hashtag. It's just a part of a To-Do List that gets ticked off to say we have been acknowledged.

14) Men aren't trash
- Some are, don't get me wrong, but for the most part I think they're just very different to women. We misunderstand each other.

So this was Part 1 of Unpopular Opinions. I can breathe now. Hopefully nobody is crying or driving to their safe space. If you enjoyed, let me know in the comments so that I can do plenty more. I have a lot of opinions.

Thanks for reading,

Have a great day x

Why I Stopped Watching Love Island/Rant

Yes you read that title correctly. I stopped watching Love Island *cries in Spanish*. Hear me out though because I'm going to explain why. I thought I would write a blog post about it just because I kind of see Chelle Belle as my online Journal in some ways, so why not.

For those of you who do not know what Love Island is, it is a UK reality dating show where a mix of men and women over 18 live in a villa together in Spain for 6-8 weeks. The aim is to couple up with someone you think you're attracted to and have a connection with. There is a grand prize of £50,000 for the best couple (voted by the public). There have been some success stories and some....not so much. There are challenges, dates, drama and 'fun'.

First of all, let me just let y'all know THIS IS HARD! It's very difficult to suddenly stop watching a show mid way through, whilst you're totally addicted to it. That's kind of the main reason why I stopped. Addiction.

I have been watching Love Island since season 2 and every year I have been reluctant to keep up but somehow lust of the flesh took over and I ended up watching it. Even when I knew I shouldn't I did and part of me ALWAYS regretted. Of course it is great entertainment but sometimes you have to give things up that are entertaining, in order to maintain other things. Let me explain deeper.

When they announced the release date of season 4 along with the brand new cast, my initial feelings were excitement but like each year it was also a feeling of conflict. Up until the DAY of the first episode I battled with myself over whether I should watch it or not. Probably sign number 1 that I should have gave it a miss. I watched it anyway and from there I was in my room with my laptop ready to tune in at 9pm every evening, even when I had an exam the next day. I prioritised the show over doing the necessities that needed to be done. I became lazy. Something that I never thought I would say. You may be reading this thinking "Rochelle it really isn't that deep" but its something much bigger than that.

I put the show before everything and that isn't OK. I would delay Bible Study to watch something that focuses on lust, I would come home from a day with friends and the first thing I did was put ITV Hub on, I would constantly make it a topic of conversation. I even managed to get other people addicted to it and I didn't even feel right watching it myself. It became addicting and the minute something begins to consume my life, I have to cut it off. I have always been that way. Cheryl Cole once said that "too much of anything can make you sick". That one lyric has always stuck with me. You should never let something CONTROL YOU because YOU ARE IN CONTROL. I refuse to let this show control my thoughts and actions, especially when I already saw it begin to happen.

Love Island genuinely made me scared to let my guard down or catch feelings. Like genuinely. Watching Laura, Georgia, Samira and Alex get mugged off made my guard go up higher than I ever thought a show could. It made me close myself up even more than usual and put a cage around my heart for a hot minute. Except imagine the keys for the cage went missing. I was really prepared to have high security and let NOBODY in. However life shouldn't be like that. I was sitting in church and realised how much damage that can do. You should guard your heart but always have the key to control who can go near it. You should always be open to letting people in, because you never know what important people that may give access into your life.

Although its a heavily edited TV Show, these are real people with real feelings so I couldn't help but think, if these things can happen to beautiful girls like this, it can DEFINITELY happen to me. I really had to think, is it worth damaging my self esteem and mental health, just for one hour of entertainment? The answer was of course no. No matter what people think or the direction everyone else is going, you must ALWAYS prioritize yourself. Everyone else may not see it that way but you need to stay in your own lane. The minute you try to switch it up when you know you can't, is when accidents happen.

Another way that the show was changing my actions was through reaction. One of the best parts of the show is being able to read or hear other people's opinions about events going on in the villa. I would have Twitter open at all times whilst watching an episode, to share my thoughts and hear everyone else's. That seemed OK until I really sat down and thought about it. Some of the jokes that I thought were funny at first weren't so funny. Jokes about Laura looking older than 29 started off as funny but then I just felt sorry for her. She is constantly being shamed for just aging. Something we all do...
I realised that she has no idea that she is being shamed for not looking young like everyone else. She shouldn't be made to feel bad for being natural. Whether she looks 29 or not, she is and its unfair that she is insulted everyday for not looking like other 29-year olds (without knowledge of it too).

When Charlie came into the villa, Samira openly said that he was her type. Blonde. Everyone jumped at her throat for it but didn't question it when Wes said the same thing about Ellie. Even I was guilty of being like "what is wrong with you Samira?" but that is so unfair. Just because she is black, doesn't mean she has to be with a black man. So many people said it "reflected her insecurities" but actually, maybe she just likes white guys? Just because her TYPE is blonde, doesn't mean she isn't open to dating black guys. I'm sure she has. In fact, maybe she does love her chocolate men but knew Love Island wasn't going to come through with too many options. Like how white girls don't like all white guys, black girls don't like all black guys. Perhaps Josh just didn't give her the flutters?

There are so many unpopular opinions I could share, that I may make an entire post dedicated to ranting about them. My point though is that I followed the crowd and judged, just like everyone else. That really isn't me and I'm surprised I even allowed it to happen. I bet Adam and Megan aren't even as bad as they seem  but they have had sooooo much hate.

I for one do not want a show to turn me into one of those judgmental girls that I cannot stand and if I have to stop watching it, in order to improve my character rather than taint it, I will.

I don't know how many of you will have read to the end or even care, but if you did I'm sending you a virtual red velvet cake to say thanks.

Thanks for reading,

Have a great day x

Things That Annoy Me

I made a post about things that make me happy in the past, which actually did really well, and although I'm a super bubbly person, I am human and there are things that annoy me. So I thought, why don't I make a part II about just that!

Disclaimer:
I do not want this post to come across as negative in anyway or offend anybody. This is just a bit of fun and is pretty much a chance for me to rant about nonsense.

Things that annoy me:

1. People who Snapchat EVERYTHING. I don't mean people with long stories (that doesn't bother me), I mean people who can't do anything without getting their camera out. What happened to living in the moment? When we're out having a great time and someone does something funny, why does it have to be done 100 times over just to get it on camera for your story? Or why do you feel the need to film yourself when you're literally just walking out a shop.

2. When restaurants run out of pretty much everything but water. I walked into a shop/café for my lunch the other day and had a good look at the menu before ordering. I told the woman what I wanted and she said "sorry we're out of that". I thought fair enough and asked for something else on the menu, "sorry we have none left". I asked for THREE different things on the menu and did they have any? NOPE. Sorry, what? I'm hungry and I'm having to order some random meal I've never thought to try because everything I liked the look of is gone. Frustrating.

3. PDA. I could go on about this for months on end, so I'll try and make this short. OK, you're in love. Congratulations, I'm happy for you. One thing that I'm not happy about though is that I can't go where I want to go because you're too busy standing in my way, eating your boyfriend/girlfriend. Why can't you do that in your own house? Why do you need to be standing in the middle of the road where everyone can see you? It just isn't necessary, is it?

4. Crocs. No explanation needed

5. Being left on read. If I have asked you a question or I'm just feeling friendly and check up on you, why can't you just reply? Fair enough if you've got things to do, I get it, but when you post on your story and I'm here still waiting for an answer 6 hours later, its just a bit insulting to be honest.

6. Flies. Why? What is your purpose? Why must you exist? Why invade my personal space? So many questions.

7. Seagulls.....again, why?

8. Rude people. Basic manners is not optional. Even better, they cost nothing! I'm not saying to go give a random man £200, just say thank you when you get off the bus and please when you order food. When you're running late, let the person/people know. When you can't follow plans through, tell them. Just basic manners people.

9. Overly loud people honestly make me want to cry. I don't get it. There is this thing called social etiquette, that EVEYONE should have. If you're in a quiet area, don't scream. If you're surrounded by children or elderly people, don't start shouting the F bomb every second. Just respect people around you.

10. Boys who don't know how to approach a girl correctly get under my skin. If you want to get a girl's number or snap, don't start yelling "Oi peng ting" or "That ass tho". For one, I'm not a "ting" and two, don't expect me to give you the time of day if you refer to me as one. Its so annoying. Its like they expect you to fall head over heels.

11. Being nagged. Do you ever get told to do something by a teacher or your parents and they then moan at you for not doing it after they asked you about 5.3 seconds ago? I will do it when I can! If you had told me you wanted it done that second, I would have, but no...you didn't. I will do it!

12. When my natural hair won't co-operate

13. People that always have something to say. Those people get to me sooo much. They have no respect for other people and they're just irritating! Always getting involved and always have an opinion nobody needed to hear at that moment in time. *sigh*

Not going to lie but writing all this down was kind of therapeutic! Let me know what annoys you.

Thanks for reading,
Have a great day x